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Win Back Lost Love – Cutting Off Contact

exbackcoach — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 18:36:16 +0000

Let’s be honest here, we both know you are the one who’s been dumped and thus you are here searching for ways to win back your lost love. There’s no shame in missing someone you love and so let’s continue with that mindset.

My advice is, “Cutting off contact”. Yup, you are reading right alright. It may seem totally dumb thing to do if what you want is to win your ex back, but you are an emotional mess right now and you have to realize that your mind is telling you to do many dumb things. It’s probably safe to assume that for you at the moment, what may sound dumb is probably smart, and what may sound smart, is most likely a very dumb thing to do. Trust me, I’ve been there.

Your ex dumped you for a reason and he or she will not jump back into a relationship they just broke free from. I’ve been on the receiving end and the dishing end of the “cry for second chance” dumbass ex speech. It is not fun listening to your ex crying and begging for second chance. If anything, the experience completely overshadows all the good memories you’ve shared together as a couple.

The above reasons are precisely why you need to cut off contact with your ex. At this stage, nothing positive will come out of having conversation with your ex. Ironically enough, begging for second chance will completely destroy your shot at second chance with your ex. Besides, you want to keep your ex guessing, keep him or her on their toe and make sure your misery does not help them move on.

If you ever dumped someone you’d know this, it helps to move on if your ex suffers more than you due to the break up. If your ex hears the news about how miserable you are after the breakup, I can assure you he or she will sleep well that night knowing that you are not.

On the other hand, even if you are the one who’s dumped your partner, it will make you uneasy to know that your ex is doing just fine without you. It’s not so much that you want your ex to suffer, but it’s really about how much you mean (or meant) to them. Whether it’s the right approach or not, people tend to measure their worth to their ex by the amount of the suffering the breakup causes.

If you want your ex back, start by cutting off contact today and I mean completely.

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Win Back Lost Love – Cutting Off Contact

5 Ways to Get Back at Your Ex – Find Your Edge

exbackcoach — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 13:56:28 +0000

5 Ways to Get Back at Your Ex

Relationships are fragile bonds that need to be built up and maintained in order to keep them healthy and allow them to flourish. Unfortunately, break ups do happen, and they are nerve wracking, stressful and frustrating. If you are involved in a relationship that breaks up, you may be thinking that you want to get back at your ex, but is this really the best step to take? One of the most influential ways that you can actually get back at your ex will not only put your ex in an interesting predicament, but it may also repair the relationship by showing your ex how important you are and were to them. So not only are these 5 tips to get back at your ex but they are also excellent methods for getting your ex back as well.

1 – Be strong. No one needs the needy, and this saying applies very well when it comes to broken up relationships. You need to stop begging, clinging or exhibiting the behavior of someone who is feeling desperate. Let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them by acting strong and moving on. When you’ve moved on, your ex will realize that they have not.

2 – Minimize communication. Closing the doors of communication may appear counterintuitive when your primary focus is to rekindle things, but it is one of the most important steps when getting back at your ex or getting your ex back. Take a break from your ex, close off communication, and let him or her stew for a little while without any contact. This will allow your ex to clear his or her mind and realize how valuable your relationship was.

3 – Be flexible. Do not be forceful with your ex, demanding that they move out, or pick their things up by a certain date. Be flexible, be a listener and a sympathizer. Your ex will be surprised when they see this side of you, and it may inspire them to build the lines of communication that were lacking when the breakup came into play.

4 – Get the heck out! This is no time for you to be alone. Call your friends and get out of the house. Develop a social network and enjoy some entertainment in your life. This may not mean you need to date, or even pay attention to the opposite sex, but you do need to be getting out and enjoying your time with your friends. Not only will this be therapeutic for you, but it will also help convince your ex that they lost a gem.

5 – Simply be yourself. There was a really good reason for why you and your ex had a relationship to begin with, so go back to being yourself and let your ex remember why they loved you in the first place. This renewed self perception of your own self will surely rub off on your ex as well.

If you are unsure about your next move and would like a more step by step guide to getting your ex back, please check “The Magic of Making Up”, “Ex boyfriend Guru”, and “Ex Girlfriend Guru”. I hope you will get your ex back soon, good luck.

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Win Back Lost Love – Get Your Love Back Now

exbackcoach — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 04:41:23 +0000

Win Back Lost Love

What fizzles out as easily as it is ignited? If you’ve said love, you gave the correct answer. Ironically though, love is strong, love is enduring, it is everything good rolled into a single emotion and yet, it can be lost abruptly without a hint of warning.

To start things off, you need to establish the reason for the breakup. You shouldn’t try to figure out who was to blame for the breakup, but rather, you should try to analyze what led to the breakup from a third person’s perspective.

Looking back and even thinking about your ex at this point might be very difficult for you, but you have to realize that you can’t fix a thing until you know what needs fixing. So grab a cup of coffee and pull up a chair, all you have to do is remember.

What all of these will lead to is an apology and an apology with no condition attached at that. You might have apologized a hundred times to try to win back your lost love, but you’ve made those apologies hoping or pleading for your ex to come back to you. The apology came with a fine-print and no one likes conditional mea culpa with selfish motive.

“I’m sorry for everything and now please come back to me” and “I’m sorry, we no longer share the same future but still, I wanted to let you know that I am sorry” sound very different even though both sentence is trying to accomplish the same thing, an apology. I know for the most part, you won’t just rush in and tell your ex “sorry and please come back to me”, but believe me you, your ex knows why you are apologizing and he or she will look right thru you.

I know it’s hard, but just for a day take the good from your broken up relationship and accept the reality that you are no longer together with your lover. Now think of everything that you might want to apologize to your ex for and shrink it down to few things that you feel were the most important to your ex.

The final step is to apologize to your ex and this time, apologize for the sake of letting your ex know how regretful you are about your mistakes. Today is the day you breathe for your ex, today you do not think about your own selfish need, and today you make an apology because an apology is due.

If you’ve truly lived a day for your ex and you’ve emptied your mind of self-serving motivations, your ex will feel your apology in its truest of form. This is the reset button for you and your ex, be truthful to your ex from this point on forward to win back your lost love.

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