Let’s be honest here, we both know you are the one who’s been dumped and thus you are here searching for ways to win back your lost love. There’s no shame in missing someone you love and so let’s continue with that mindset.
My advice is, “Cutting off contact”. Yup, you are reading right alright. It may seem totally dumb thing to do if what you want is to win your ex back, but you are an emotional mess right now and you have to realize that your mind is telling you to do many dumb things. It’s probably safe to assume that for you at the moment, what may sound dumb is probably smart, and what may sound smart, is most likely a very dumb thing to do. Trust me, I’ve been there.
Your ex dumped you for a reason and he or she will not jump back into a relationship they just broke free from. I’ve been on the receiving end and the dishing end of the “cry for second chance” dumbass ex speech. It is not fun listening to your ex crying and begging for second chance. If anything, the experience completely overshadows all the good memories you’ve shared together as a couple.
The above reasons are precisely why you need to cut off contact with your ex. At this stage, nothing positive will come out of having conversation with your ex. Ironically enough, begging for second chance will completely destroy your shot at second chance with your ex. Besides, you want to keep your ex guessing, keep him or her on their toe and make sure your misery does not help them move on.
If you ever dumped someone you’d know this, it helps to move on if your ex suffers more than you due to the break up. If your ex hears the news about how miserable you are after the breakup, I can assure you he or she will sleep well that night knowing that you are not.
On the other hand, even if you are the one who’s dumped your partner, it will make you uneasy to know that your ex is doing just fine without you. It’s not so much that you want your ex to suffer, but it’s really about how much you mean (or meant) to them. Whether it’s the right approach or not, people tend to measure their worth to their ex by the amount of the suffering the breakup causes.
If you want your ex back, start by cutting off contact today and I mean completely.
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